Hello Sir, I’m from India.I need your guidance and insights on dealing with the loss of pets. I don’t have a pet but I feed feral cats.We can’t keep pets because it is a huge responsibility and also my mom has asthma. We allow them inside our house let them play and sleep for most of the day but at nights we keep the food outside.Recently our apartment neighbors told us to stopped feeding them as they were causing nuisance by pooping at their door step.So we stopped feeding them.But one of the kittens(his name is Bambi) was so persistent that he came to our house by jumping through the windows. It was like a secret passage.It came through the windows for about one and a half months.But suddenly one day it vanished that too when it was sick.More than 2 months has passed since its disappearance.Grief hits me every now and then and sometimes the grief is unbearable. I miss him.I’m very emotional about cats.I love them.They are my weakness.And whenever they wander off suddenly it becomes very difficult for me to deal with their absence. The thing that hurts me the most is that he was sick when he wandered off. In the past there was a feral cat like him who also wandered off when he was about 6 months old. Of course I missed and cried about him too but he was healthy when he went away.But Bambi was sick and it was barely 4 months old.I’m worried about his well being.I feel that he went away abruptly at the wrong time.I’m not needy of cats.I’m only worried about his well being.I don’t know if it’s alive and healthy or dead presently.I cannot stop crying whenever I think of him.I miss him a lot.I can’t control myself from crying whenever memories of him flash in my mind.I know that loss is inevitable but I when it comes to cats I’m very emotional. I would like to gain a deeper understanding on this issue in general(that is sudden loss of pets) so that if such kind of incident happens again I don’t get so overly emotional.I need closure.How do I deal with this grief.Please guide me.

November 10, 2012